What's the worst time for a spanking? Definitely in the middle of the winter, especially in South Africa it's really cold here. It's in times like this that you really wish you didn't have a domestic discipline relationship. It's easy to say but you can behave the you won't get spanked, but remember maintenace, it is weekly and in the night when the kids go to bed.
Anyway this is just how things work, nobody is suppose to like a spanking but the truth is alot women do so if it is on a wet bum, or in the middle of winter enjoy it.
Monday 25 June 2012
Friday spanking
Friday was a bad day for me, I've hurt my hubby in a bad way and the worst part is I don't even remember it. No not because I didn't want to, but maby I've had a little to much wine in my system.
Anyway it turned out that he was mad, hurt and I felt bad about it. It doesn't happen to often the bad feeling thing, but Friday it did happen. The worst part was I knew that he was going to spank me about this, but I didn't want to wait for the spanking, so I had to asked him to spank me for my bad attitude.
And he did when he came home, not the usual ' hallo honey how was your day' conversation, no I was to wait in the spanking position so that we could spank and move on. He started with his hand, not the nice, long slow warmup like he use to do, no hard slaps from the start. It was difficult to hold position, but I knew this would get far more worst. Then he took out the plastic cane, boy was I one sorry little girl after that spanking, the tears were flowing but I wasn't histerical like I use to be after being caned, no this was different I knew I really needed the spanking.
And what would happen after the spanking, we went for a three our drive on my very sore bottom.
Anyway it turned out that he was mad, hurt and I felt bad about it. It doesn't happen to often the bad feeling thing, but Friday it did happen. The worst part was I knew that he was going to spank me about this, but I didn't want to wait for the spanking, so I had to asked him to spank me for my bad attitude.
And he did when he came home, not the usual ' hallo honey how was your day' conversation, no I was to wait in the spanking position so that we could spank and move on. He started with his hand, not the nice, long slow warmup like he use to do, no hard slaps from the start. It was difficult to hold position, but I knew this would get far more worst. Then he took out the plastic cane, boy was I one sorry little girl after that spanking, the tears were flowing but I wasn't histerical like I use to be after being caned, no this was different I knew I really needed the spanking.
And what would happen after the spanking, we went for a three our drive on my very sore bottom.
Thursday 21 June 2012
KINKY OR DEGRADING?
Have you ever wondered why people in bdsm play, believe in degrading their submissives? This is weird for me, because even though I like to read some of the stories, there is always something bothering me about a 24/7 lifestyle like that. I don't believe it is the atual act in the playsession I think it is the way they name their submissives.
Personly I would hate it if someone call me a whore or a slut all the time. This is bad because they want the women to be like a slut to them, but calling them pet or slut all the time is so degrading. The women who wants to be submissive want a dominant who can control them in many ways, even humiliate them when they need it, but never in my life have I heard of a submissive who wants to be degraded by any name calling. Realy I don't like the roleplay thing like 'daddy and little girl' but even that is better than pet or whore.
Just a random thought from me, maby someone would like to tell me more about this kind of lifestyle so that I can see what is the missing link from my side. I don't mean to offend anyone living this way, the thing is I realy don't understand it. Yes I can see why the sub calls the dom 'sir' or 'master' because it make him feel more powerful and dominant, but can't they rather call their subs 'missy' or something more respectful.
Please tell me how you feel about this topic, what is your two cents about this.
Personly I would hate it if someone call me a whore or a slut all the time. This is bad because they want the women to be like a slut to them, but calling them pet or slut all the time is so degrading. The women who wants to be submissive want a dominant who can control them in many ways, even humiliate them when they need it, but never in my life have I heard of a submissive who wants to be degraded by any name calling. Realy I don't like the roleplay thing like 'daddy and little girl' but even that is better than pet or whore.
Just a random thought from me, maby someone would like to tell me more about this kind of lifestyle so that I can see what is the missing link from my side. I don't mean to offend anyone living this way, the thing is I realy don't understand it. Yes I can see why the sub calls the dom 'sir' or 'master' because it make him feel more powerful and dominant, but can't they rather call their subs 'missy' or something more respectful.
Please tell me how you feel about this topic, what is your two cents about this.
Thursday 14 June 2012
WHAT WOMEN WANT
Women want dominant husbands, who can control them, punish them when needed, but above all love them like there is no tomorrow. Why would we want to be controlled and punished, because it make us feel special and worthy of your love. Yes all men out there, please take this seriously, we will not hate you for keeping us in line, we will love you more, respect you more, tressure every moment with you. Most men is so afraid to step up, and give their women what they need, affraid of hurting them, losing them, afraid of what other people may think about them for living this way. But reallity is, we need you to be stronger than your fears, we need to rely on you for surporting us, caring for us, even to discipline us. Yes alot of women will threaten you when you do spank them, but truly I do not think she would go through with her thread, if you show her that she needed it, and that she is still the most important person in your life.
Have you ever thought why women read romance books, and why they like to watch romance movies, because they see real men in it, dominant men that can be hard, but their love is so much stronger for their women. The most common complain in every marriadge is lack of consistency from men. You could ask yourself, but why would I have to punish a grownup women, she is supose to know what is right and wrong, yes and she does. The problem is we do not know how far are we allowed to push, we want to see the dominant men inside of you, we want to know how much is enough. We do not want to be abbused, we want for you to lead us with loving correction, not with hate. Most of the women feels the same way, we are in need for a strong leader but we can not give up control, if we can't see that quality inside of you.
We do not what to be degraded, or to be someones slave, all we really want is a stern loving husband, that knows what he expect of his wife, and know how to get it. Do we want to be punished, well sometimes we do, not because it is fun, but we have a innerneed for correction, and the way we feel afterward. We struggle to give over control, we want to feel the submissive women inside of us, and the only way we can get to that stage is when our men became dominant, and stronger than us.
But what if she cries? What if I really hurt her?
We have to cry, it's a women's thing to do, we want to cry, do not worry about it. If we cry we go to another mindset, a better one. We can talk alot about crying, but for now, just remember that we are emotional beings. Yes a spanking do hurt, she can bruise aswell, but afterall it will heal pretty fast, and before you know it she will be upon your knee again. Why? Simple she loves to feel your control, and the love signals you send out to her by adminnistering a good spanking.
Let go of your fear, and women can let go of their control.
Have you ever thought why women read romance books, and why they like to watch romance movies, because they see real men in it, dominant men that can be hard, but their love is so much stronger for their women. The most common complain in every marriadge is lack of consistency from men. You could ask yourself, but why would I have to punish a grownup women, she is supose to know what is right and wrong, yes and she does. The problem is we do not know how far are we allowed to push, we want to see the dominant men inside of you, we want to know how much is enough. We do not want to be abbused, we want for you to lead us with loving correction, not with hate. Most of the women feels the same way, we are in need for a strong leader but we can not give up control, if we can't see that quality inside of you.
We do not what to be degraded, or to be someones slave, all we really want is a stern loving husband, that knows what he expect of his wife, and know how to get it. Do we want to be punished, well sometimes we do, not because it is fun, but we have a innerneed for correction, and the way we feel afterward. We struggle to give over control, we want to feel the submissive women inside of us, and the only way we can get to that stage is when our men became dominant, and stronger than us.
But what if she cries? What if I really hurt her?
We have to cry, it's a women's thing to do, we want to cry, do not worry about it. If we cry we go to another mindset, a better one. We can talk alot about crying, but for now, just remember that we are emotional beings. Yes a spanking do hurt, she can bruise aswell, but afterall it will heal pretty fast, and before you know it she will be upon your knee again. Why? Simple she loves to feel your control, and the love signals you send out to her by adminnistering a good spanking.
Let go of your fear, and women can let go of their control.
Implements to get your attension
Last night we had maintenace, and let me tell you it wasn't just normal maintenace it was difficult for me. I was so glad when it whas over, have you ever felt a wooden brush, with a wooden paddle. Look I believe I can take one hell of a spanking, if it is done with the hand, even the leather strap, but wood no way. I hate wood, from the cane to paddle, brush anything that is made of wood, I will gladly skip. And the moment your husband knows that you feel that way, they will make sure there is alot of wooden implements in the house, even make their own.
My HOH made alot of our implements, paddle, flogger, whips and yes the evil evil loopy johnny, and the taws how can I forget that one. I had written a essay over all the implements we have, I've named it 'the board of education', and every one had a special task. You just know when you messes up what
kind of implement is going to teach you a specific lesson.
In our home it works like this:
When you tantrum;
It's the cane's job to speak
When you drink to much wine, and became testy;
Loopy Johnny will help you
When you do not listen;
Out came the paddle, the wooden one
Snotty sms to hubby;
This one is difficult, it could be the leather belt, the riding corp, the leather paddle actully it could be anything he can lay his hands on thirst.
When you skip your daily journal;
Ok this happens alot. Every damm implement get to taste you on a occation.
My HOH made alot of our implements, paddle, flogger, whips and yes the evil evil loopy johnny, and the taws how can I forget that one. I had written a essay over all the implements we have, I've named it 'the board of education', and every one had a special task. You just know when you messes up what
kind of implement is going to teach you a specific lesson.
In our home it works like this:
When you tantrum;
It's the cane's job to speak
When you drink to much wine, and became testy;
Loopy Johnny will help you
When you do not listen;
Out came the paddle, the wooden one
Snotty sms to hubby;
This one is difficult, it could be the leather belt, the riding corp, the leather paddle actully it could be anything he can lay his hands on thirst.
When you skip your daily journal;
Ok this happens alot. Every damm implement get to taste you on a occation.
Tuesday 12 June 2012
What if you could choose your fantacy relationship
Have you ever read a spanking story, that was so apealing to you, that you wished you could get the same kind of relationship. I've read alot and my favourite kind of stories is written in the old days, when women had no choice of such a discipline relationship. I love the dominace the men had, and the fact that nobody question their dominace over their women. It just give me the thrills all the way down my spine.
If you could choose, what kind of spanking relationship would you have chosen. Let's see if you can let your imationation flow. Please tell me your fantacy relationship.
If you could choose, what kind of spanking relationship would you have chosen. Let's see if you can let your imationation flow. Please tell me your fantacy relationship.
Sunday 10 June 2012
Behave
Have you ever been threatend with a spanking when you have visitors. My husband do that alot and and for me this is the worse thing, even to just think about it. Never happend before, but just thinking about it, gives me the greaps. Yes I know perhaps I should behave then it woudn't happen, but I don't know why some women in such a relationship, just wait for vissitors to start misbehave. Do we do it, to test, or is it just the controlling one who wants to peak out, every once in awhile, only to say hallo I'm still here.
Whatever the reason is, it happen with alot of us, maby not everytime but still it does. Do we want to be spanked with the guests in the house, no way never please. So what do we want? I do not know, maby the look to see that you are still watching us, maby just a little walk outside and a reminder. We've been doing DD for a long time and still this little mishaps do happen all the time. There is always a reason for a spanking in this house. My HOH once told me, that he doesn't want me to lose my personalty, and he didn't want me to lose the fight in me, could it be that he loves that part of me? It's a challange for him to try and tame me, and that's the part he loves the most.
He just hate to see me unhappy, and if I do not have the little brat in me, and if I didn't have the fighting spirit he loves so much, then both of us will feel unhappy and sad. What purpose will we have then, he hates to punish for things that realy cause us harm, but he will, on the other hand he loves to spank for brattyness, and smaller things just to show he is still the one in control. And that's the part of domestic discipline I love the most.
I love my HOH so much, and I'm so proud of him for taking up this challange and the time to lead us to something so special. We want to go foward in this relationship but we will do the things that work for us, and what we enjoy, There can't be anymore stress and sleepless nights for something that will take a lifetime, and alot of spankings to come. So behave or be a brat, doesn't matter if both can enjoy the jouney on their way.
Whatever the reason is, it happen with alot of us, maby not everytime but still it does. Do we want to be spanked with the guests in the house, no way never please. So what do we want? I do not know, maby the look to see that you are still watching us, maby just a little walk outside and a reminder. We've been doing DD for a long time and still this little mishaps do happen all the time. There is always a reason for a spanking in this house. My HOH once told me, that he doesn't want me to lose my personalty, and he didn't want me to lose the fight in me, could it be that he loves that part of me? It's a challange for him to try and tame me, and that's the part he loves the most.
He just hate to see me unhappy, and if I do not have the little brat in me, and if I didn't have the fighting spirit he loves so much, then both of us will feel unhappy and sad. What purpose will we have then, he hates to punish for things that realy cause us harm, but he will, on the other hand he loves to spank for brattyness, and smaller things just to show he is still the one in control. And that's the part of domestic discipline I love the most.
I love my HOH so much, and I'm so proud of him for taking up this challange and the time to lead us to something so special. We want to go foward in this relationship but we will do the things that work for us, and what we enjoy, There can't be anymore stress and sleepless nights for something that will take a lifetime, and alot of spankings to come. So behave or be a brat, doesn't matter if both can enjoy the jouney on their way.
Saturday 9 June 2012
Testing
Can you please just comment if you've been reading this blog, I want to do a test to see if this blog is working, otherwise I need to open a new one. Thank you for your time in helping me with this.
Friday 8 June 2012
No not this please
tonight is so bad for me, so bad for the submissive wife. Yes I'm writing this and hate every moment of this, he is reading my daily journal. I just got spankend and I'm sore, really this is not the time for me to tell him that I do not like him to read my journal. Sometimes DD can be realy a pain in the butt, for me it is now. I've been spanked with his belt, till the tears flow, for what don't even ask, it's my personallity, I just can't help it. Been me isn't always easy ok, really a spanking whas the last thing on earth I wanted tonight, I wanted to voice my opinion, I did ok, but it wasn't going to help me. Did I telll you I hated the belt, really it is somewhat sexy, but not when you are in trouble.
Anyway let me get going all the people what to eat, and let me be submissive before I get the belt again.
Anyway let me get going all the people what to eat, and let me be submissive before I get the belt again.
Wednesday 6 June 2012
What if your hubby feels so down?
Yesterday was one of these days for us, everthing seem to go wrong for my husband at work. He is always so perfect in his work nothing is ever out of it's place, but not yesterday.
He couln't handle the fact that he messed up at work, and I couln't handle to see him like this. It broke my heart to pieces, and I felt so meaningless because I couln't help him fix it. It was a teary day for me, I realy wanted to help him. Yes I know what I was supose to do, but I couln't, we needed him to be the leader, and he couln't even lead himself.
Everything should be fine when he came home, it was maintenace night and that could help him, was my thoughts. Then came the message 'there will be no maintenace tonight, I realy don't want to hurt you, and I do not feel in control.' It made me so mad, how can he lead us, and take control over us, if he can't help himself at times? He could see how dissapointed I was, and said to me, 'ok we will do maintenace but for the first time I'm giving you a password, and I want you to use it.' That's when I realised that he is still in control, and it made me so proud of him, that's the man I married and love so dearly.
He wasn't to hard on me, and I didn't use the password, he only used his hand, and he was very much in control of himself. For the first time in years I can see that he really begin to put his heart into this kind of relationship, now the journey really starts for us.
He couln't handle the fact that he messed up at work, and I couln't handle to see him like this. It broke my heart to pieces, and I felt so meaningless because I couln't help him fix it. It was a teary day for me, I realy wanted to help him. Yes I know what I was supose to do, but I couln't, we needed him to be the leader, and he couln't even lead himself.
Everything should be fine when he came home, it was maintenace night and that could help him, was my thoughts. Then came the message 'there will be no maintenace tonight, I realy don't want to hurt you, and I do not feel in control.' It made me so mad, how can he lead us, and take control over us, if he can't help himself at times? He could see how dissapointed I was, and said to me, 'ok we will do maintenace but for the first time I'm giving you a password, and I want you to use it.' That's when I realised that he is still in control, and it made me so proud of him, that's the man I married and love so dearly.
He wasn't to hard on me, and I didn't use the password, he only used his hand, and he was very much in control of himself. For the first time in years I can see that he really begin to put his heart into this kind of relationship, now the journey really starts for us.
Tuesday 5 June 2012
A little true story
I must confess to all the people reading my blog, you will notice that sometimes my spelling is not hunderd persent correct. The thing is I'm not english speaking, we are from South Africa and we speak afrikaans. So please keep that in mind when reading my blog, if it bothers you then don't read. I need to write about my DD jouney because in South Africa nobody can talk about such a relationship, they will lock your husband in jail.
Monday 4 June 2012
We are starting to work on my submission
P and I are practising DD for three years now, and still I couldn't find my submssisive side, and he couldn't find the real domminant in himself. We were struggeling on our path, yes there were alot of spankings, and we did maintenace once a week. The problem was that all the time it felt like a game to us.
Now we are strating over, a new beginning. Last night was so intense and wonderfull we realy felt each other. It all begin with me being so testy, I always test to see where this thing will go, and he said that he will help me to become submissive. So in the bath last night he said that after my bath that he would give me a spanking with his belt for testing him again. He gave my seven swats on the bare, but it didn't get me to the place I wanted to be, so I become so angry and stomp off, again. Then he said no way will this happen again, and the real spanking begin, this time a proper warmup with his hand, and out come the leather strap, no more mister nice guy.
Then I finaly realised that he ment bussiness, and he will bring me to my senses, after the spanking I realy felt some submission, because I didn't control the spanking, and we became one. So intense, so right, so ment to be.
Now we are strating over, a new beginning. Last night was so intense and wonderfull we realy felt each other. It all begin with me being so testy, I always test to see where this thing will go, and he said that he will help me to become submissive. So in the bath last night he said that after my bath that he would give me a spanking with his belt for testing him again. He gave my seven swats on the bare, but it didn't get me to the place I wanted to be, so I become so angry and stomp off, again. Then he said no way will this happen again, and the real spanking begin, this time a proper warmup with his hand, and out come the leather strap, no more mister nice guy.
Then I finaly realised that he ment bussiness, and he will bring me to my senses, after the spanking I realy felt some submission, because I didn't control the spanking, and we became one. So intense, so right, so ment to be.
Sunday 3 June 2012
Submission
I was wondering about this for a long time, and still I can't figure it out by myself. I think all womem have a need to submit to her husband, but what if you realy don't know what to do, where to start? Many of us read other blogs about this subject, but you know yourself, you know you just can't do all the stuff other women do. Maby someone could help me with this, what did you do to begin, did you have any exercises your partner let you do?
I was wondering about this for a long time, and still I can't figure it out by myself. I think all womem have a need to submit to her husband, but what if you realy don't know what to do, where to start? Many of us read other blogs about this subject, but you know yourself, you know you just can't do all the stuff other women do. Maby someone could help me with this, what did you do to begin, did you have any exercises your partner let you do?
Friday 1 June 2012
Hallo everybody
I'm a new blogger, my husband and I are also in a DD relationship. Here I will post my journey and write stories from time to time. I hope to became friends with all the other ladies who are in the same relationship.
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