Wednesday 18 July 2012

EMOTIONS BEFORE A REAL PUNISHMENT

Emotions before a real punishment spanking, their is so many emotions going through a women, and then she realize just how complicated such a relationship is.  Many women would say yes for a spanking, but when you've been in such a relationship and you know what a real punishment spanking feels like, the tables are turning.  There is no fun in a punishment, and thats when the women starts to think;

Why did I ever give my consent for such a relationship?
I don't think I want this anymore
He is not an angel, what if he messes up?
Who give him the right to do this - yeah you did
This is really going to hurt
What implement is he going to use
Why am I so stupid
Maby I should start crying now, before the punishment - will it soften him?
I can run, must I, will it be the smartest thing to do?
Hide all the worst implements
Lock the bedroom door
Yeah we could talk this one out
I do not want this punishment
I can play him emotionaly
Will he give me a proper warm up?
I hate this man, really who gives him the right to do this?
Yes I know I've mentioned that one already
I'm starting to feel sick now
Will he stop on time
Are you sure someone can't die from a spanking?
Why can't he just forgive me, and leave punishment?

And the list can go on forever, depends on how long you have to prepare for your punishment, and the worst part is, maby you were the one who introduce him to the idea of domestic discipline.  Then the door opens, and it is time to face the music, and all the fun and sexy stuff you've heard of such a relationship dissapear into thin air.  But somewhere inside of you, you know that after punishment you and the big bear will be more than ok, and you will love him more than ever.

There are many emotions and after all these years, I believe there cames a time in every domestic discipline relationship, that you wish you could just walk out and pretend you never started it at once.  Discipline and punishment is not fun and hurts like the dickens, yes the lovemaking can make up for the discomfort but remember not all couples do the same thing.  It took me a few years to came to that point, we do not do DD or taken in hand or any other form of lifestyle we just do what works for us.



Thursday 12 July 2012

CRYING

Reading most of the blogs, and very good blogs to add, I dicided to write out of a womens point a view from now on.  I want to write over problems and solutions, no more personal stuff about myself, and my family.  I will try to be helpful for beginners taking a subject and just give my two cents over it.

CRYING

Crying is the most natural way for a women to express her feelings at any situation, most women want to cry during or after a spanking because it is a part of womenhood.  Crying for some women came very easy, the worst part in the beginning of DD is when the women can't cry, for the dominant it is most important to understand the women needs before starting such a relationship.

Most cupples just start with DD before knowing each others real needs, yes it can be exciting to put a women over your knee and blister her behind, but pause just there.  You need to talk about this, what is it you both want out of this experience.  How important is crying to her, what do the HOH wants for himself. 

Give her time to think about what is going to happen, lecturing help in preparing her emotionaly, do not play around and handle the situation like a game, be real from the start.  Take time on the whole spanking, talk her through, crying doesn't came from pain, it cames from her emotional side.  Get her in the perfect mindset before starting the spanking, let her talk to you give her side of the story, let her explain her situation to you.

Then tell her that the spanking is going to hurt, and that it is ok for her to cry, you will be there for her but  you both need this for  your relationship to grow into something special.  Once a women can see that this is not a game to you, and  you are serious about DD she will also became more serious herself.  Tell her to let go, and be free even if you are the one who is hurting her now, tell her that she is still the one you love most.

Crying should be easy now, but one warning, hold her afterwards but please do not tell her she is your goodgirl, because if she was she wouldn't be crying now with a red bottom.  Sometimes just to be there is enough, hold your words for later, other times when she is crying and it's not just a tear or two leave her in her bedroom alone, tell her when she is ready you will be waiting for her in the livingroom.

Women can be very sensitive when they want to cry, but feel to ashame to because the HOH is still in the room.  Afterall she is not a little girl anymore, shame can be a reason why the tears and release won't come.















Go or stay?

It's being a long time since I post, things is a bit busy this side with the school holidays and the kids being so busy.  It feels like I lost myself for a week or two, DD goes on, abit diffirent with the kids awake till late but still going on.

The thing is I'm actually so grumpy lately, I really feel lonely like things are falling apart, but the truth is everyting is still the same.  Maby it is hormones or something, it's sometimes so hard being a women, we have many choices to make and most of the times I'm so afraid of making the wrong choices for us.

I need to go for a hystorectomy, and really it is fine with me, it's actually what I wanted for a long time, but now that the time arrived, I feel so scared all of sudden.  I really hate this part it feels like I'm falling apart.  Maby writing about it will give me some sence, about this.  Could it be that I feel this way because of all the nasty stories you heard of women feel less like a women, husbands suddenly wants a divorce after sugery.  The long recovery six weeks, maby longer. On a lighter note.


The good news is, I find all of my school friends and some of them is going to visit me on Sunday, it's being twelve years since we last see each other.  We've being terrible in school, always in hot water and I can't wait to bring times back, now with our families, being all grownup and responsible of our own children.  And the last thing I want for this weekend is DD, I want to be my old self with my friends, and not to watch over my shoulder the hole time, to see if hubby is giving me the look.  Maby I must just talk to him about this, lucky for me he is the most understanding person I know.