Women want dominant husbands, who can control them, punish them when needed, but above all love them like there is no tomorrow. Why would we want to be controlled and punished, because it make us feel special and worthy of your love. Yes all men out there, please take this seriously, we will not hate you for keeping us in line, we will love you more, respect you more, tressure every moment with you. Most men is so afraid to step up, and give their women what they need, affraid of hurting them, losing them, afraid of what other people may think about them for living this way. But reallity is, we need you to be stronger than your fears, we need to rely on you for surporting us, caring for us, even to discipline us. Yes alot of women will threaten you when you do spank them, but truly I do not think she would go through with her thread, if you show her that she needed it, and that she is still the most important person in your life.
Have you ever thought why women read romance books, and why they like to watch romance movies, because they see real men in it, dominant men that can be hard, but their love is so much stronger for their women. The most common complain in every marriadge is lack of consistency from men. You could ask yourself, but why would I have to punish a grownup women, she is supose to know what is right and wrong, yes and she does. The problem is we do not know how far are we allowed to push, we want to see the dominant men inside of you, we want to know how much is enough. We do not want to be abbused, we want for you to lead us with loving correction, not with hate. Most of the women feels the same way, we are in need for a strong leader but we can not give up control, if we can't see that quality inside of you.
We do not what to be degraded, or to be someones slave, all we really want is a stern loving husband, that knows what he expect of his wife, and know how to get it. Do we want to be punished, well sometimes we do, not because it is fun, but we have a innerneed for correction, and the way we feel afterward. We struggle to give over control, we want to feel the submissive women inside of us, and the only way we can get to that stage is when our men became dominant, and stronger than us.
But what if she cries? What if I really hurt her?
We have to cry, it's a women's thing to do, we want to cry, do not worry about it. If we cry we go to another mindset, a better one. We can talk alot about crying, but for now, just remember that we are emotional beings. Yes a spanking do hurt, she can bruise aswell, but afterall it will heal pretty fast, and before you know it she will be upon your knee again. Why? Simple she loves to feel your control, and the love signals you send out to her by adminnistering a good spanking.
Let go of your fear, and women can let go of their control.
I am going to have Adam read this. Well said!
ReplyDeleteglad you enjoy this peace, I think most women feel this way.
ReplyDeleteI am fascinated by your article, mainly because I have very strong feelings regarding spanking a woman, and I have had for many years - that's just the way I was put on this earth!
ReplyDeleteThere is a very strong link for me between spanking and my sexuality and I would love to be in a committed relationship where I could live accordingly.
I am also pleasantly surprised to read your statement that "most of the woman feel the same way"! I am assuming that your statement is based on actual discussions you have had with other woman, or is it just a feeling you have?
Being a fellow South African, I am very curious to know if you believe this to be true specifically amongst Afrikaans speaking woman, or woman in general?
I have also liked the idea of marrying a real "plaas meisie" (farm girl) as I think they are largely brought up "knowing there place" so to speak (please don't get me wrong here - I am NOT referring to a degrading or abusive type relationship) - I just think they often have traditional values and are more submissive (in the nicest possible way) than many other woman.
I would love to hear your thoughts and comments please?
Hallo Kwagrant, so nice to hear from men on this blog, I believe what I said is true, I've spoke to alot of women about this, in the beginning of the subject most women say noway, never but later on they say yes we will love such a relationship. In South Africa as you may know there is alot of abuse, but women would rather live in a spanking relationship full of love, before being hit with the fist. The thing is in a DD or taken in hand relationship, it is always done out of love, never in anger, and the relationship grow into something special with trust and love.
ReplyDeleteFarm girls or boeremeisies can be a handful, but with communication and love I realy don't think she will resist such a relationship. The main thing is talk to her, tell her that even if she earn a spanking from you that she is still the women you loved most. You can even threaten her with a spanking and see how she react on it, give her a playfull spanking and see what the feelings is.
Do not try to give a punishment thirst, that can be to much for her. Yes we do have alot of traditional values but remember most women in our culture is use to wear the pants, best will be to be dominant and loving from the start of a relationship. That way she will know how is the leader from the start. Good luck on finding the right partner.
Thank you again for the positive feedback and advice - I will be sure to follow it when the time arises (and your great blog all the time)! It is great to hear this straight from the mouth of a fellow South African woman too - somehow, without offending any other women, it is a lot more believable when its just next door, so to speak! Vrystaat!!
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