CRYING

Reading most of the blogs, and very good blogs to add, I dicided to write out of a womens point a view from now on.  I want to write over problems and solutions, no more personal stuff about myself, and my family.  I will try to be helpful for beginners taking a subject and just give my two cents over it.

CRYING

Crying is the most natural way for a women to express her feelings at any situation, most women want to cry during or after a spanking because it is a part of womenhood.  Crying for some women came very easy, the worst part in the beginning of DD is when the women can't cry, for the dominant it is most important to understand the women needs before starting such a relationship.

Most cupples just start with DD before knowing each others real needs, yes it can be exciting to put a women over your knee and blister her behind, but pause just there.  You need to talk about this, what is it you both want out of this experience.  How important is crying to her, what do the HOH wants for himself. 

Give her time to think about what is going to happen, lecturing help in preparing her emotionaly, do not play around and handle the situation like a game, be real from the start.  Take time on the whole spanking, talk her through, crying doesn't came from pain, it cames from her emotional side.  Get her in the perfect mindset before starting the spanking, let her talk to you give her side of the story, let her explain her situation to you.

Then tell her that the spanking is going to hurt, and that it is ok for her to cry, you will be there for her but  you both need this for  your relationship to grow into something special.  Once a women can see that this is not a game to you, and  you are serious about DD she will also became more serious herself.  Tell her to let go, and be free even if you are the one who is hurting her now, tell her that she is still the one you love most.

Crying should be easy now, but one warning, hold her afterwards but please do not tell her she is your goodgirl, because if she was she wouldn't be crying now with a red bottom.  Sometimes just to be there is enough, hold your words for later, other times when she is crying and it's not just a tear or two leave her in her bedroom alone, tell her when she is ready you will be waiting for her in the livingroom.

Women can be very sensitive when they want to cry, but feel to ashame to because the HOH is still in the room.  Afterall she is not a little girl anymore, shame can be a reason why the tears and release won't come.