AFTERCARE

Aftercare is a topic I wanted to write about for a long time now, many people handle this differently, and many don't even do it.

First of all I'm speaking to the HOH when you plan on spanking your spouse, think a litlle further than just the spanking.  You are spanking the women you love and protect, so yes spanking can change behaviour and that's why you both agreed on spanking as method to make changes.  The truth is spanking is use as discipline or punishment, and after the spanking is over their needs to be aftercare.

Many HOH neglecte that thought entirly, because that maby didn't even occured to them to use aftercare.  For myself  this may be the biggest factor in any DD or spanking relationship.  Without aftercare the women may start to loose trust in her HOH because she may feel like he is abusing her, or that he didn't care enough about her.  Spanking is the punishment like I said, but afterward there must be love, and lots of it, you do not want your partner to loose trust in your abillity of HOH.  Yes and to be the disciplinarian cames with a big responsibility, you must always keep your spankees emotions in mind aswell as her wellbeing.

So if you spank for dicsipline or punishment, always keep some oil or ointment nearby, because the spankee will hurt badly after the spanking, if you deside on conertime after the spanking use it, you can rub the buttocks later on with oil.  Always let your women know that after the punishment she is forgiven and that you will help her to take care of her punished behind, she will gain alot of respect for you when you take care of her.  But do not stop the aftercare after that, make her feel secure in the next few days aswell, you can rub arnica on her every night, and see the healing proses for yourself, you can even take that time and talk to your spouse on why she is in this current position and what is she going to do to aviod it in the future.

Do not make fun of her, she was brave enough to take a severe spanking she really do not need any sarcasm from your part, be sensitive to her emotions.  Emotions can run high for a day or two after a punishment, and if the HOH aren't sensitive to his spouse a problem can occure in the future.  If you tressure your relationship, then I suggest you start using the proper aftercare, and stop sarcastic remarks after punishment.