Aftercare is a topic I wanted to write about for a long time now, many people handle this differently, and many don't even do it.
First of all I'm speaking to the HOH when you plan on spanking your spouse, think a litlle further than just the spanking. You are spanking the women you love and protect, so yes spanking can change behaviour and that's why you both agreed on spanking as method to make changes. The truth is spanking is use as discipline or punishment, and after the spanking is over their needs to be aftercare.
Many HOH neglecte that thought entirly, because that maby didn't even occured to them to use aftercare. For myself this may be the biggest factor in any DD or spanking relationship. Without aftercare the women may start to loose trust in her HOH because she may feel like he is abusing her, or that he didn't care enough about her. Spanking is the punishment like I said, but afterward there must be love, and lots of it, you do not want your partner to loose trust in your abillity of HOH. Yes and to be the disciplinarian cames with a big responsibility, you must always keep your spankees emotions in mind aswell as her wellbeing.
So if you spank for dicsipline or punishment, always keep some oil or ointment nearby, because the spankee will hurt badly after the spanking, if you deside on conertime after the spanking use it, you can rub the buttocks later on with oil. Always let your women know that after the punishment she is forgiven and that you will help her to take care of her punished behind, she will gain alot of respect for you when you take care of her. But do not stop the aftercare after that, make her feel secure in the next few days aswell, you can rub arnica on her every night, and see the healing proses for yourself, you can even take that time and talk to your spouse on why she is in this current position and what is she going to do to aviod it in the future.
Do not make fun of her, she was brave enough to take a severe spanking she really do not need any sarcasm from your part, be sensitive to her emotions. Emotions can run high for a day or two after a punishment, and if the HOH aren't sensitive to his spouse a problem can occure in the future. If you tressure your relationship, then I suggest you start using the proper aftercare, and stop sarcastic remarks after punishment.
Tuesday 28 August 2012
Monday 27 August 2012
TRUE Q and A FROM HOH
SPANKEE MUST BARE THEMSELF OR THE SPANKER?
It depends on how I feel, if I tell you to do it yourself then you better, but really this isn't so big issue for me.
PANTY OR G-STRING?
G-string
THE WOMEN MUST GET THE SPANKING TOOLS OR THE HOH?
Hoh
WHY?
It's about power and a surprise for the spankee.
DO YOU HAVE PUNISHMENT TOOLS, AND OTHER FOR JUST BECAUSE? OR CAN YOU USE ANY TOOL FOR PUNISHMENT ASWELL?
No, it depends on how you use the implements, even the hand can be use for punishment, and a paddle for maintenace.
STRAP OR HAIRBRUSH?
Depends on how I feel, the strap if I don't want to bruise to much.
BIKINI OR DRESS?
Dress
WHAT DO YOU PERFER TO LET YOUR SPANKEE WAIT FOR A SPANKING FOR DAYS OR TO STEP UP AND SPANK RIGHT AWAY?
For maintenace I like to let her know before hand, but discipline and punishment I will do it right away.
WHAT POSITION DO YOU LIKE?
Depends on my mood.
DO YOU LIKE YOUR SPANKEE TO THANK YOU FOR SPANKING HER, OR DOESN'T IT MATTERS TO YOU? AND IF YOU PREFER IT HOW DO YOU LIKE HER TO THANK YOU?
Physical like oral sex it makes the women even more submissive.
HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN SPANKING YOUR WIFE, DO YOU FEEL DOMINANT OR QUILTY?
Dominant, but you still feel quilty and bad because you are the one who is hurting her.
DO YOU TAKE THE WOMEN OR BOTTOM TO THE PLACE WHERE SHE WILL BE SPANKED OR MUST SHE GO ON HER OWN AND WAIT?
She must go on her own and wait, it gives her time to think.
HOW LONG IS THE PERFECT TIME FOR HER TO WAIT, AND MUST SHE WAIT IN A POSISION OR NOT?
Five minutes I believe is long enough and in a bending position or on her knees.
LECTURE DURING, AFTER OR BEFORE SPANKING?
During
MUST THE SPANKEE CALL YOU SIR OR ANYTHING DURING THE DISCIPLINE PROSES, OR CAN SHE BE HER CHEECKY SELF?
The more cheecky the longer and harder the spanking will be.
LONG SPANKINGS OR SHORT SPANKINGS?
It depends on what I want.
WOMEN MUST ASK PERMISION FOR THE THINGS SHE WANT OR WANT TO DO, OR MAKE HER OWN CHOICES AND LIVE WITH THE OUTCAME OF HER DISSISIONS?
Live with her choices and maby a good spanking.
Come and join in the fun see if you can get Hoh, top or husband to answer these quistions.
It depends on how I feel, if I tell you to do it yourself then you better, but really this isn't so big issue for me.
PANTY OR G-STRING?
G-string
THE WOMEN MUST GET THE SPANKING TOOLS OR THE HOH?
Hoh
WHY?
It's about power and a surprise for the spankee.
DO YOU HAVE PUNISHMENT TOOLS, AND OTHER FOR JUST BECAUSE? OR CAN YOU USE ANY TOOL FOR PUNISHMENT ASWELL?
No, it depends on how you use the implements, even the hand can be use for punishment, and a paddle for maintenace.
STRAP OR HAIRBRUSH?
Depends on how I feel, the strap if I don't want to bruise to much.
BIKINI OR DRESS?
Dress
WHAT DO YOU PERFER TO LET YOUR SPANKEE WAIT FOR A SPANKING FOR DAYS OR TO STEP UP AND SPANK RIGHT AWAY?
For maintenace I like to let her know before hand, but discipline and punishment I will do it right away.
WHAT POSITION DO YOU LIKE?
Depends on my mood.
DO YOU LIKE YOUR SPANKEE TO THANK YOU FOR SPANKING HER, OR DOESN'T IT MATTERS TO YOU? AND IF YOU PREFER IT HOW DO YOU LIKE HER TO THANK YOU?
Physical like oral sex it makes the women even more submissive.
HOW DO YOU FEEL WHEN SPANKING YOUR WIFE, DO YOU FEEL DOMINANT OR QUILTY?
Dominant, but you still feel quilty and bad because you are the one who is hurting her.
DO YOU TAKE THE WOMEN OR BOTTOM TO THE PLACE WHERE SHE WILL BE SPANKED OR MUST SHE GO ON HER OWN AND WAIT?
She must go on her own and wait, it gives her time to think.
HOW LONG IS THE PERFECT TIME FOR HER TO WAIT, AND MUST SHE WAIT IN A POSISION OR NOT?
Five minutes I believe is long enough and in a bending position or on her knees.
LECTURE DURING, AFTER OR BEFORE SPANKING?
During
MUST THE SPANKEE CALL YOU SIR OR ANYTHING DURING THE DISCIPLINE PROSES, OR CAN SHE BE HER CHEECKY SELF?
The more cheecky the longer and harder the spanking will be.
LONG SPANKINGS OR SHORT SPANKINGS?
It depends on what I want.
WOMEN MUST ASK PERMISION FOR THE THINGS SHE WANT OR WANT TO DO, OR MAKE HER OWN CHOICES AND LIVE WITH THE OUTCAME OF HER DISSISIONS?
Live with her choices and maby a good spanking.
Come and join in the fun see if you can get Hoh, top or husband to answer these quistions.
Monday 13 August 2012
PLEASE SIR.....................
When I'm down I want you to spank me.
When I'm happy I want a playfull spanking.
When live is getting to busy I need a spanking.
When I need someone to talk to, it can happen over a spanking.
When a girl need some comfort a pair of hands can help.
What I'm trying to say is, anytime is just a perfect time for a spanking, we tend to look for excuses to spank and sometimes it is such a burden to look for excuses. Do not look for a reason to spank, just spank because it does both of you good. It makes a women feel better and more in control of her emotions, and for a man it helps relieve stress. It is good for your sexlife and it help couples to trust one another.
Why wait for a reason to spank, just do it and enjoy it, it is part of who you are and what you enjoy. It was your choice to live in such a relationship, now go 100% or leave it. Do not expect obidience all the time, and do not expect good behaviour all the time, women need to be out of control sometime and even if we complain while spanked, we really enjoy the fact that you can take control of any situation, any time any day, even without a good reason.
When I'm happy I want a playfull spanking.
When live is getting to busy I need a spanking.
When I need someone to talk to, it can happen over a spanking.
When a girl need some comfort a pair of hands can help.
What I'm trying to say is, anytime is just a perfect time for a spanking, we tend to look for excuses to spank and sometimes it is such a burden to look for excuses. Do not look for a reason to spank, just spank because it does both of you good. It makes a women feel better and more in control of her emotions, and for a man it helps relieve stress. It is good for your sexlife and it help couples to trust one another.
Why wait for a reason to spank, just do it and enjoy it, it is part of who you are and what you enjoy. It was your choice to live in such a relationship, now go 100% or leave it. Do not expect obidience all the time, and do not expect good behaviour all the time, women need to be out of control sometime and even if we complain while spanked, we really enjoy the fact that you can take control of any situation, any time any day, even without a good reason.
Monday 6 August 2012
To share or not to share?
Have you ever talk to somebody over your relationship? Why do people wants to know what is your secret for such a wonderful marraige, and the moment you tell them they turn their heads and you became the joke. My question is; is it really worth it to share your secrets? The bottom line is many couples can listen to your story for hours but the truth is they just won't go that extra mile for their marraige.
I've seen it many times, they always seem so blown away when they hear your story, but in the real world, they laugh after your back. People can confuse you, and make you feel unsure of yourself and your marraige.
Is it really nessasary to share your marraige to close friends? No best will be to just focus on your family and just turn your head when you see how other people live their lives. Keep what you and your husband have intimate and sexy, because nobody can trade places with you, it is in your hands to make it work for yourself. Do not meassure your standards according to other people, do what makes you happy, and the hell with the rest.
I've seen it many times, they always seem so blown away when they hear your story, but in the real world, they laugh after your back. People can confuse you, and make you feel unsure of yourself and your marraige.
Is it really nessasary to share your marraige to close friends? No best will be to just focus on your family and just turn your head when you see how other people live their lives. Keep what you and your husband have intimate and sexy, because nobody can trade places with you, it is in your hands to make it work for yourself. Do not meassure your standards according to other people, do what makes you happy, and the hell with the rest.
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